How To Get Him Back If YOU Broke Up With HIM

By David Coates

When a couple break up… there are only three causes:

1 – You break up with him

2 – He breaks up with you

3 – You both decided to split up

This page is dedicated to a woman who broke up with a man… and now wants to reverse that and get him back.

The burning hot question you want answering is…

“Can I really get him back after I dumped him?”

The answer is


Because I’ve seen it happen… lots of times. The key to getting him back… is to explain to him in a language HE understands… WHY you dumped him… and to convince him you will NEVER do it again.

Over the past twenty-nine years… I’ve helped over one hundred and seventy women get their ex’s back into their lives… I’ve helped couples get back together after some really bad breakups… including breakups where she dumped him… and then wanted him back.

I have done my very best to give you a clear plan to get him back here… but I am not able to tell you everything here on this webpage, because it would take too long for you to read.

However… I have this special resource for you… which does tell you pretty much everything you need to know… and it’s free!

How To Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back Permanently

There are loads of reasons couples break up. The first step to getting him back into your life… is to understand these reasons.

Before I tell you the common reasons… I just want you to know I’m not writing these pages because I want to make money. It’s just that throughout my entire life women have opened up to me (sometimes I felt like an agony aunt), and I’ve got so much knowledge in my head… I feel good writing these articles and helping other people.

For me… it’s a release… to get my knowledge and experience out there…

So, here are some common reasons for a break up. My goal here is to get you to evaluate your situation… and decide if you really do want him back.

The core reason for any break up is… men and women simply do not understand each other.

A woman wants a man to be her soul mate. Someone she can trust to be there for her if she has a problem, someone who responds to her feelings… and ultimately… someone she can feel connected to on an emotional level.

A man… wants to be mothered… at the end of the working day… because it makes us feel loved, wanted… cared for. I know this doesn’t sound very masculine… but it’s the truth… although most men won’t ever admit it.

We also want to be communicated with directly, not indirectly.

Here is an example of indirect communication.

“I shouldn’t have to tell him he should already know”.

Men can’t read minds, although we would love to be able to! Whatever it is we should know, you have to tell us.

A man wants to be encouraged to grow and achieve, and not to be criticised when he makes a mistake.

These are some of the things a man wants.

All breakups fall into one of four categories

1 – Lack of trust. If you both don’t trust each other, the relationship will fail, and one person will break up with the other. This isn’t a relationship killer. Trust has to be earned over time… so once trust has been broken… it takes time to earn it back again.

2 – Compatibility problems. This is a huge topic, but covers at least half of all breakups, such as…

“I’m not ready for a relationship” This really means… “I’m not ready for a relationship with YOU”

“You are always late”

“You are always criticising me”

“You don’t give me enough attention”

These are also NOT relationship killers. The secret to dealing with any compatibility issues… is… to make the other person aware of them, and to explain WHY it’s a problem.

If he is always late, and that really pisses you off… sit him down and explain that his punctuality really annoys you… and explain how it makes you feel. Tell him it makes you feel ignored, or it makes you feel like he doesn’t respect your time.

If he understands… he will do his best to improve. But… don’t tell him in a way that makes him feel like you are having a go at him.

All that will do is cause an argument.

3 – How he made you feel. Women are very emotional people, and men simply do not understand this. If you broke up with him for this reason, another man isn’t guaranteed to be any better.

You need to explain to him in plain simple English EXACTLY what he does… that makes you feel the way you don’t want to feel.

You need to explain in plain simple English, exactly how he makes you feel. Then… he will realise… and not do it again.

Some women have difficulty communicating directly with men. This is because women tend to be right-brained. Right-brained women tend to be emotional, intuitive and respond to feelings.

The stereotypical ‘dumb blonde’ isn’t dumb at all. She is simply VERY right brained.

Men tend to be left-brained. Men tend to be logical, analytical, pragmatic and direct.

A scientist is very left-brained... the complete opposite of the stereotypical ‘dumb blonde’

So… to communicate with a man, you have to do it in a ‘left-brained’ way.

4 – Weak emotional connection. If two people are not connected on an emotional level… the relationship will slowly fall apart. Both people must work to keep the emotional connection alive.

A strong emotional connection is created by two people spending lots of time together, talking to each other… and… understanding each other. If you don’t understand why someone does what they do, you will never have an emotional connection with them.

Women tend to be better at understanding this connection than men… so… whomever your next boyfriend is… you will have to do a lot of the work in this area, because he won’t know how to.

It is much easier to create a connection with your ex, than a new man…

Your reason for wanting him back

Now you understand the primary reasons couples break up… you now need to sit back and decide if you should actually get him back into your life.

In my experience, if you don’t have a genuine reason for wanting him back… you won’t be able to get him back… because you won’t have enough motivation to do what it takes to bring him back into your life.

If you are not sure you have a genuine reason for wanting him back… read this article.

Genuine Reasons For Wanting Him Back

Here’s what to do now

First… download a copy of my Case Study… where you will discover how my ex-girlfriend Sarah got me back after six months apart.

You will also discover how to get the very important first date with your ex-boyfriend… where he wants to meet up with you. Even if you have already met up with him since your break-up… he most likely wasn’t ready to crawl through broken glass to see you.

This case study shows you how to make him WANT to see you again.


Next… after your successful first date… you must escalate from meeting for a simple cup of coffee and a chat… to dating him again. You do this by…

Changing how he feels about you…

I’ve got a simple four step system for you to copy… which is based on how my ex Sarah got me back into her life.


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