How To Be An Irresistible Woman (natural beauty not required.)
By David Coates
I’ve spent around three days getting this article ready for you… and I can promise you… this will be the best article for you to read on this entire website.
I wrote this article… because women who want their ex’s back… tend to feel unhappy, depressed, and unwanted. Women are very conscious about their appearance… and on some level always blame their appearance for causing the breakup.
In the real world… breakups are NEVER caused by the way you look. Even if you have put on weight… this will not be the cause of the breakup.
Over the past twenty-
Been more desirable is much more than making yourself look better… it’s more about your attitude… behaviours and personality.
Over these next few pages… I’m going to let you have a peek into the true mind of a man… and give you a unique insight into what a husband or boyfriend truly finds attractive about a woman.
This article is based on my own personal experiences and opinions… and on the experiences of around fifty to seventy other men I’ve spoken to about this over the years.
One thing I want to stress is… becoming irresistible to a man is an important factor… when getting an ex back into your life… it makes the process much easier. It is also important for you to understand… you don’t have to be great looking or sexy to be irresistible to a man. It’s all about perception.
Describing the irresistible woman
(To discover more about becoming irresistible to your ex, and how to get him back into your life… click on this link.)
Imagine three women walking into a bar.
The first woman is ‘average’… meaning there’s nothing wrong with her… but there nothing about her that makes a man really notice or pay attention to her.
The second woman is ‘hot’ or as we English say ‘quiet beautiful’. She gets a man’s attention straight away… but she doesn’t have an equally ‘hot’ or ‘beautiful’ personality.
The third woman has the whole package. She is beautiful, smart, and has a great personality too.
An irresistible woman is the highest quality woman that exists. She is smart… beautiful… and is great to be with.
Now… if you DO NOT match this criteria… DO NOT stop reading. An irresistible woman has to be irresistible to a man… from a man’s point of view… not YOUR own point of view.
Some women whom you think are irresistible to a man… WILL NOT BE… from some men’s point of view.
Sure… she may get lots of dates and have lots of men chasing after her… but… doesn’t mean men find her irresistible.
A truly irresistible woman is beautiful by her own standards… she is smart by her own standards… she is great fun to be with by her own standards. In short… she is the best version of herself as she can be.
When you achieve this status… you become irresistible to all men compatible with you… and you can form a long term relationship with any of these men.
Why? Because this woman is comfortable with herself. You don’t have to act or pretend… you are simple you.
Personality and appearance are pretty much equal
Irresistible women are pretty rare… because… most women aren’t trying to become one. Buying nice clothes and putting on make-
It is true we men are very visual, and we automatically pay attention to a beautiful woman… but an irresistible woman is so much more than that.
Personality and consistency are just as important.
The Irresistible Points System
I developed this system over a period of about five years… after talking to and listening to around one hundred men and women.
To make it easy for a woman to become irresistible to a man she is compatible with… I developed a points system to help you ‘rate’ yourself.
Men tend to grade women out of ten. If a friend of mine says…
“There’s a bird stood at the bar who’s a ten”
This translates into…
“There is a very beautiful woman stood at the bar.”
The part of England I live… we refer to women as ‘birds’. I’ve no idea why… we just do.
So my points system rates women out of ten for their looks… and also rates women out of ten for their personality. So…
An Irresistible woman: 18 – 20 points
A high quality woman: 15 – 17 points
The average woman: 9 – 14 points
A below average woman: 0 – 8 points
To explain the points system… a woman who is ten out of ten for looks… but only three out of ten for personality… scores thirteen points… which makes her an average woman. She may have lots of men wanting her… but in reality she is average.
Now… who decides your score?
Other men do.
A man will give you a looks rating almost straight away… but your personality rating can take months to be decided.
All men rate women in this way… because we all want to meet and settle down with an irresistible woman.
The most important fact for you to remember is this…
Every man has his own unique way to define an irresistible woman. A woman you may think is beautiful… a man may only rate her looks six out of ten.
This is why ‘beauty is in the eye of the beholder’.
Now… whatever your rating is… this rating will change. So… if you are right at the top of the scale… twenty out of twenty… you only need to lose four points… and you fall from being irresistible to high-
Also… a rating of thirteen (average) can just as easily jump up to seventeen (high-
We men are pretty much stuck with out looks, a seven out of ten can’t really rise up much… but we can improve our personalities.
A woman though… can raise her looks pretty easily, as well as your personality. This means… most women can become irresistible.
The Truth about How You Look
Looks matter a lot!
If anybody tells you otherwise… they are either lying or are trying to kiss your arse.
No woman is irresistible naturally. To achieve twenty out of twenty… you have to work to get there… and keep working to maintain it.
With regard to looks, you need at least eight out of ten… so you don’t have much room for error.
Why such a high score?
Because there are so many other women out there for a man to choose from… YOU must stand out from the crowd.
To improve your looks… you must choose clothes, make up and a hair style that compliment you. You must become the most beautiful version of ‘you’… you can become. Never compare yourself to someone whom YOU think is beautiful… a man may NOT agree with you.
However… the truth about how you look is…
The way a man ‘sees’ you isn’t just based on what he sees through his eyes… it goes way deeper than that.
All relationships have three stages:
Stage one: The honeymoon stage. When a relationships starts… everything is great. No real problems… just lots of sex and lots of fun.
Stage two: The emotional connection stage. This is where you both connect on an emotional level.
Stage three: The make or break stage. Here… you both magnify every aspect of the other person… so you can decide if you should ‘commit’ to them… or finish them and move on.
During the emotional connection stage… you can improve how you look by establishing an intense emotional connection with him… which then changes how he sees you.
Instead of seeing ‘you’… the six out of ten woman… he sees the ten out of ten woman.
This is because our mind works through associations. If you touch a hot oven and burn you hand… you associate a hot oven with pain… and you never again touch a hot oven.
So… if you have a strong emotional connection with him… and everything feels ‘right’… he associates lots of nice pleasurable things with you.
So… each time he opens the door and sees you… instead of seeing a six out of ten women… he sees a ten out of ten woman… because of what he has associated with you.
This is why an ‘ugly’ woman can achieve ten out of ten in looks.
The Irresistible Woman’s qualities
Now we have arrived at the most important part of this article... and the longest.
Here I tell you from a man’s point of view… the most important qualities an irresistible woman must have.
The Unforgettable quality…
From his point of view… you must be unforgettable. Something about you must stick in his mind… you want him to daydream about you.
One of the many differences between men and women… is men never really talk to other men about our deepest thoughts.
As a woman… you tend to talk to other women about your deep thoughts… which is how you ‘get things off your mind’.
We men don’t do that… so we dwell on things. What you want to do is become the thing he dwells on.. so gradually… you are the only thing he is really thinking about.
The Miss Popularity Quality
Most people are automatically attracted to popular people. This is why magazines do anything they can to get popular people on the front cover…
Being regarded as popular is a very important quality in becoming an irresistible woman.
Don’t you feel more attracted to popular men… than unpopular men?
Being popular doesn’t mean you have to be the most popular person in the room… nor does it mean everyone has to flock around you as soon as you walk into the room…
Being popular means a man must think you are pre-
If you went to a party… and saw a man who was clearly the centre of attention… you would automatically find him more attractive than the man who is talking to just one person.
The same applies the other way around.
If I were to walk into a party… and see a woman who clearly had most of the attention… I would be thinking…
“Hmm… I would sure like to be with her…”
I may talk to other women… but my attention would be focused on her… because I want to know WHY she is so popular.
The Great Looking Quality
Have you noticed that on every page of this website there is a picture of me? I’ll tell you why.
Looks matter a lot.
I’m not great looking… (and I hate wearing glasses)… but I look like a kind, caring and honest type of person… which is part of the reason women over the years have felt comfortable opening up to me. My looks also help me run this website.
Now… if I looked like a tough, hardened criminal with a big tattoo on my face and razor blades sticking out of my ears… I would NOT use my picture… because it conveys the wrong image. You would never listen to such a person about relationships and getting your ex back.
So… to become an irresistible woman… you need at least eight out of ten for looks. Now… say you have been rated as four out of ten for looks… should you quit?
Because you can raise your score pretty easily.
For a woman to truly deserve a score of five or below… she must have grotty teeth, big boils on her face, un-
If you make at least some effort to look good… you will score at least six out of ten… meaning… you only need two more points.
Remember… you aim is to become the most beautiful version of you, you can become… which is why almost any woman can become an irresistible woman.
The Two Aspects of Beauty
A woman’s physical beauty is divided between her face and her body.
There is no fixed rule… regarding which is most important. Men are different… and have ‘favourite’ areas they look for. So… even if you were not born with amazing looks… you can improve other areas… to make yourself ten out of ten in the eyes of some men.
We will examine the face first.
Your face is the first thing a man sees. First he notices your eyes, then your hair… then your skin… lastly… your overall ‘look’.
You can’t do anything about your eyes… so forget about those.
Your hair… you can change.
The fact you need to remember about hair is this…
As soon as a man sees your hairstyle… he will instantly judge you, pigeon hole you, and it will be very difficult for you to change his mind.
For example… I do not go for woman with short hair. When I see a woman with short hair I immediately classify her as practical, hands-
Even if she is incredibly attractive and sexy… the short hair is the killer for me. In my mind… I associate short hair with masculine qualities… a big turn off for me.
Long hair… now were talking. I associate with long hair beauty, grace, class, quality… a real ‘lady’ as we English say. In my mind… I associate with long hair… feminine qualities… which I like.
Once I categorise a woman… it’s almost impossible for her to change my mind.
Best advice I can give you about how to choose your hairstyle… remember back to when you were dating a man you really liked. Whatever your hairstyle was back then, is the type that attracts men YOU really like.
So… keep your hairstyle as close to that ‘look’ as you can.
When you change your hairstyle… you automatically change the type of man you attract.
A man likes a woman with good skin… for the same reason a woman likes a man with good skin.
Your skin indicates how healthy and clean you are… so… do everything you can to keep your skin looking healthy.
I’m not going to say much about a woman’s body… because all men are pretty much identical on what we like. All I would like to say is this.
You don’t need to have the perfect body of a super-
How fat or thin is completely up to you. Judge this by the reactions you get from men. A positive reaction means your weight is ok… a negative reaction means it isn’t.
You will never get a perfect smile. Just practice in front of a mirror and aim to get as close to a perfect smile as you can. When you are greeted by someone who gives you a beautiful genuine smile… you feel special. This is why your smile is important.
The Attitude of an Irresistible Woman…
Your attitude scores you personality points… your aim is to get as close to ten as you can.
Your attitude is made up of certain qualities… such as…
“I genuinely like you and want to get to know you. You can trust me and I’m not going to harm you.”
If you go on a date with a man… and he doesn’t really make the effort to talk to you or get to know you… gives one word or short answers to your questions… he isn’t building rapport with you.
However… if you go on a date with a man… and he makes you feel like he is genuinely interested in you, and is open about himself… he is building rapport with you.
On most of the dates I’ve been on… and most of the dates my friends have been on… usually it’s the man who has to build rapport.
If you reverse this… and YOU are the one building rapport, YOU take the lead… you will be well on your way to scoring very high personality points.
Most women struggle to do this… because women tend to lack confidence… especially on the first date.
How do you raise your confidence?
“The way you dress reflects how you feel”
When you feel good, you take care of your appearance. When you feel low or depressed… you tend to take less care.
When you wear nice new clothes… you tend to feel good.
So… to raise your confidence… dress in a manner which reflects high confidence.
Remember a time in your past where you felt confident… if you can remember what you were wearing… that will guide you to choosing ‘confident clothes’.
Leave Him Wanting More
This is another indicator of confidence… and a great rapport builder.
Around fifteen years ago I was at night-
We got on great, and she was even single! We exchanged telephone numbers (mobile phones weren’t big in England back then)… and when I asked her out on a date I fully expected her to say yes.
Her answer was…
“I’d love to. Aah, I can’t. It’s my sisters birthday tomorrow. Next week maybe..”
She kissed me on the cheek and walked off.
“Next week maybe”
What a killer.
She left me wanting more… and boy… did I want more. She was a cracker. (ten out of ten).
By leaving me wanting more… she became much more attractive to me… than if she had simply had said yes.
The secret to leaving him wanting more… is the Zeigarnik effect.
We all hate incompleteness.
Have you ever watched a soap opera? Those long running TV shows whose story line runs for years, or in some cases decades?
Millions of people watch these every day.
There is one primary reason why soap operas are so popular.
The show is never complete. Every episode has a dramatic ending, forcing you to watch the next episode so you can find out what happens.
Something like..…. It’s 11 o’clock at night and the doorbell rings. Shocked, Gregg gets up, walks into the kitchen, unlocks the door, opens the door to reveal…… a 17 year old girl stood there with a suitcase.
“Hi. Are you Gregg?” asks the 17 year old girl
“Yes I am” answers Gregg
“Remember 17 years ago when you had unprotected sex with Suzy on Miami Beach?” asks the 17 years old girl
“Erm……” mumbles Gregg
“Well…… I’m Rachel…… your daughter!” announces the 17 year old girl
“Noooooooooooooooooooooooooo” screams Gregg
You feel compelled to watch the next episode to find out who was Suzy, how did they meet, how did they split up, how did Rachel find Gregg, why did she want to find Gregg………….
As humans we need closure. We don’t like open patterns or unanswered questions.
So… when the girl at my accountancy class said…
“Next week maybe”
She left me hanging… wondering… is it a yes or a no. The situation was incomplete… and when I went to class the next week… I HAD to know her answer.
Your posture is how you carry yourself, how you walk, how you stand up.
Bad posture is like Yoda from Star Wars…
“Mmmm bent over double I am”
Good posture is where you hold your head high and sit/stand straight.
Good posture makes you look confident and more appealing.
Here’s what to do now
First… download a copy of my Case Study… where you will discover how my ex-
You will also discover how to get the very important first date with your ex-
This case study shows you how to make him WANT to see you again.
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Next… after your successful first date… you must escalate from meeting for a simple cup of coffee and a chat… to dating him again. You do this by…
Changing how he feels about you…
I’ve got a simple four step system for you to copy… which is based on how my ex Sarah got me back into her life.
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