How to get him back if he has a girlfriend


By David Coates


I know that it really hurts when a man you have strong feelings for moves on to a new woman. I see the upset and pain it causes… and it’s very easy to get angry and to hate his new woman.


But… based on the past twenty-nine years of helping around one hundred and seventy women get their ex’s back … I can promise you… feeling angry and hating his new woman won’t help you get him back into your life.


All you will do is drive him further away from you.


The smart move… is NOT to lose hope, and not to assume you can never have him back in your life. Instead, focus on what you want to happen, focus on getting him back, and read this article, because I’m going to tell you exactly how to get him back.


Over the past twenty-nine years I’ve seen a lot of women in your exact situation get their ex’s back… and… contrary to what you may be thinking… it isn’t more difficult to get him back now that he has a new woman in his life… than if he was still single.


It’s actually easier… because… he’s been completely distracted from you… and all the memories of you have begun to fade away.


This means you can revive only the good memories and good aspects of you… and leave all the bad stuff buried under the soil.


I wrote this article to help you cope with the bad feelings you are having. I know exactly what it feels like… seeing an ex-girlfriend with another man… the urge to punch the little f***** in the face was very strong. But I resisted the temptation… because I knew it would only drive her further away from me.


Instead I became ‘friends’ with him… because I planned to destroy their new happy relationship… but that’s a story for another time.


The Best Free Resource…


When I first created this site… my goal was to create the best free resource for getting your ex-boyfriend back after a break up.


Based on the feedback I’ve had, I’ve really hit the mark.


However, some women wanted more. Usually, the women who felt heartbroken, the women whose boyfriends had said goodbye (or worse) and moved on to a new boyfriend, and women who still felt a strong attraction to her ex… these women wanted more than this free website loaded with great articles on getting your ex back.


So, this is what I recommend.


The First Rule to Getting Him Back


Before you do anything, you must use the ‘no contact’ rule. I’m not going to elaborate on the ‘no contact’ rule here, but I have written for you a separate page on the ‘no contact’ rule here.


If you don’t want to read it, here’s what you need to know about the no contact rule.


1 – You must have no contact at all with your ex for thirty consecutive days. No Facebook, no texting him, no ringing him.


2 – During this thirty days, you have to work on improving yourself. Your goal… is… the next time he sees you… he thinks to himself…


“Wow… she’s changed”


3 – The no contact period allows him to re-write history. No one remembers every past event with one hundred per cent accuracy. You want the ‘bad’ memories to fade away into the background… and the ‘good memories’ to come to the front.


In your situation, the no contact rule is very important. If your ex has a new woman in his life… you are going to be feeling VERY bad about this, and if you do contact your ex, you aren’t going to have many good things to say to him… and you won’t be in the right frame of mind to get him back.


Should You Really Want Him Back?


This quick section isn’t about getting him back… it’s about preventing you from making a mistake… getting a man back into your life who will only hurt you again.


You deserve a man who will genuinely love you… not a man who makes you feel bad about yourself.


How your ex got his new woman is very important. There are three situations possible here:


1 – You broke up with him. Now you want him back… and he got a new woman in his life after the break up.


In this situation, it’s worth getting him back.


2 – He broke up with you, then he got a new girlfriend.


Again, it’s worth getting him back.


3 – He was cheating on you with another woman, then you split up. Doesn’t matter who ended it.


Do you really want him back after he cheated on you? Giving him the chance to hurt you again? I would suggest you only get him back… after… he proves to you he can be trusted.


The Truth about Getting Back an Ex Who Has Moved On


In this section I will tell you four truths about getting back a man who has moved on to another woman. The most important thing for you to remember is… all because he has moved on… doesn’t mean all is lost. You can still get him back.


1 – You must follow the no contact rule and stay strong. If you give in to your feelings and allow yourself to get angry… you aren’t going to be in right frame of mind to get him back. You also don’t want to be sending him hateful text messages about him new woman, or bitching about her to anybody.


He won’t like it if he finds out you have been talking negatively about her… the smart move… is to compliment her… because it shows you have high mature values… which makes you more attractive in his eyes.


I know this is VERY tough to do… I’ve been in this situation myself… but believe me… not doing what he expects you to do (be angry and hate her) really will get his attention in a good way.


Plus… SHE is counting on you to visibly hate her. Each time you do… it drives him further away from you and closer to her.


2 – Dating somebody new isn’t an easy thing to do… especially if you were with the other person for a long time and the relationship was pretty serious.


There is a good chance your ex feels uncomfortable in his new relationship… plus the ‘good’ memories of you and him will still be on his mind. These feelings tend to lead to a ‘rebound relationship’. These relationships usually don’t last for long.


3 – A rebound relationship is usually created after a break up… to make the bad feeling of the break up go away. It’s like putting a bandage on a cut, it’s just a temporary thing. Have any of your rebound relationships worked out? Do you know anybody who’s rebound relationship worked out? I don’t either.


All you need to do is stay calm. If you react to your situation negatively, you will make mistakes and push him further away from you.


4 – The more distant your break up was, the less accurate his memories of your relationship will become. No one remembers past events with one hundred per cent accuracy. At first he will remember the bad events, the arguments etc… but as time passes by… these memories will fade away… and he will only really have a vivid recollection of the good memories… which will help you get him back.


Coping with the break up


It can be painful to see someone you want back in your life… with somebody else. This section is all about how you can control your feelings.


The first thing you have to remember… is… although he may be with somebody else… doesn’t mean he is lost forever. Sometimes a man will go out with someone new… then regret his decision… because the relationship with his ex was better than the relationship he has with his new woman.


Focus on yourself… not on him. Do not obsess over the situation. You have no control over him, but you do have control over yourself. If you go out there… have some fun… make new friends… really improve your social life… you will slowly begin to feel better about yourself.


Don’t blame yourself. Whatever caused the break up… both are responsible for the break up. Some women blame themselves for the break up. They believe they did something or didn’t provide something… which caused the break up.


It’s never as simple as that. Even simple break ups are complicated. Just remember not to allow your ex-boyfriends actions to change how you feel.


Accept and deal with the pain. You do not have the ability to choose how to feel. Nobody does. Feeling pain and upset is normal… just don’t allow it to affect your everyday life. If you do… you reduce the chances of getting him back… because you will become less attractive in his eyes.


Don’t get addicted to struggle. As Humans… we have a tendency to want the things we can’t have. This is because some people get addicted to a struggle. If you are struggling to achieve something… it can give you a sense of purpose… something to fight for… something to achieve.


Some women want their ex back simply because they have seen him with someone new… and want the challenge of getting him back.


If you think you fall into this category, proceed carefully. Ask yourself the question… ‘do I have a legitimate reason for wanting him back?’


Don’t compare yourself… We all have a habit of comparing ourselves to other people. So… the danger is… you will compare yourself to his new woman… and find yourself lacking.


You are not supposed to be anything like her… or any other woman. You are a unique individual… and your goal in life should be to become the best version of YOU… you can be.


When you compare yourself to others… you only end up feeling bad about yourself… or you feel superior to other people. Both of these are bad… just accept that everybody is different… and learn to love your own uniqueness.


What you can do today to get him back into your life


Up to here, this article has been all about the personal things you should do to get your ex-boyfriend back if he has a new woman in his life.


In this section I am going to quickly tell you what you can actually do to get him back. Remember… do these after the thirty day no contact period.


Look out for trouble… Relationships, especially new relationships… are very delicate. Doesn’t take much for it to end… so… watch out for troubles in his new relationship... and be ready to support him if things go bad. Your goal is to remind him of how good things were with you.


Text him back into your life… Text messages are the ultimate tool to getting him back into your life. There are a few rules to doing this… and I haven’t got time to tell you the rules here… however… if you go here … you can discover what these rules are.


Always be nice… Never criticise his new woman or talk about her to anybody in a negative way. All this does is make you look un-attractive in his eyes.

Here’s what to do now


First… download a copy of my Case Study… where you will discover how my ex-girlfriend Sarah got me back after six months apart.


You will also discover how to get the very important first date with your ex-boyfriend… where he wants to meet up with you. Even if you have already met up with him since your break-up… he most likely wasn’t ready to crawl through broken glass to see you.


This case study shows you how to make him WANT to see you again.

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Next… after your successful first date… you must escalate from meeting for a simple cup of coffee and a chat… to dating him again. You do this by…

Changing how he feels about you…

I’ve got a simple four step system for you to copy… which is based on how my ex Sarah got me back into her life.

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